How to Set Boundaries During the Holidays Without Feeling Guilty

Christmas is filled with decisions. How much money can I spend? What holiday celebrations should I attend? Should I send Christmas cards? When your to-do list gets too long, you may feel overwhelmed and lose your joy.

Setting boundaries is key to lowering your stress and eliminating overspending. But how do you do that without feeling guilty?

Setting Boundaries on Gifts

Years ago, the adults in my family had a frank discussion surrounding gifts. None of us really needed anything. We wanted to give gifts to the children, but decided the adults would draw names. Each adult purchased something for another adult, spending no more than the agreed-upon spending cap.

Taking time to make decisions together about ways to decrease stress and spending is a good way to set a boundary.

You won’t feel guilty when everyone has agreed on the plan. In situations where you can’t all agree, decide to do what you can and let go of the guilt. Release it because it’s an emotion you have allowed yourself to feel. You have the power to release it.

If you’re struggling with guilt, ask yourself, “Am I feeling guilty because I didn’t meet their expectations or my own?”

When we live according to what others expect, we’ll never be happy Share on X Set your expectations, live according to them, and do not burden yourself with shame or guilt.

Setting Boundaries on Money

Establish a Christmas budget and keep to it. Homemade gifts are among the most thoughtful and often cost much less. I’ve discovered over the years that when money was tight, my creative juices flowed, and I found more thoughtful, handmade options.

Allow yourself to be creative and stay within a budget. Feel grateful for the money you have, and do not focus on what you do not possess. If others seem unappreciative of your gift, remind yourself that their expression of ungratefulness is their decision. You gave what you could.

Setting Boundaries on Time

While it’s not always possible to say no to work parties or church commitments, keep in mind you don’t have to do everything. Select a few activities to enjoy. Too many and you end up stressed and losing your joy.

Takeaway

Your calendar is only as full as you allow it to become. Saying no is always an option. Again, decide to live according to your standards and not by what others think.

The Bible tells us to trust God and His provision. He will provide enough money, enough activities, and enough time. However, we are stewards of the funds, activities, and time He offers. When we cram in too much or overspend our budget, we risk losing the peace and joy the holiday promises.

What changes will you make this year to bring more joy to your Christmas?

 

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